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Benefits of Setting a Child’s Daily Routine

 

A child’s life is full of spontaneous moments and free-flowing discoveries. Setting a daily routine can give it some structure and make things easy to manage for parents. Here are simple ways in which a child’s daily habits can be set into a routine.

Sense & Structure:  A child’s day can never be fully planned as they slowly explore the world around us, learn to communicate and build bonds with every person they meet. The world is a fascinating place for kids where every moment carries wonder and joy that they want to experience. Setting a routine however, helps parents manage their time & commitments at home and work and it also gives child rootedness.  Daily habits such as waking up, brushing teeth, going potty, bath, dressing up, playing with toys, putting them back, meal-times, nap-time and more are a part of a child’s usual daily routine.

Family Bonding: Following a routine gives working parents more time to spend with their kids and just bond. Working parents often enjoy daily walks or a visit to the park with kids and rejuvenate. Shared experiences apart from play-time such as baking, just being with each other, telling stories or just watching a child grow up and discover the world one step at a time are highly enriching. This also releases the need to rush through life as parents savour moments of growth & development at every stage and are better able to cope with stress.

Healthy Habits: Both parents and kids with routines have been found to have better health. For instance, sleeping and waking up at a set time is better in the long run for the entire family. It aslo imbibes a sense of security in kids as they know what to expect and do incase they are confused.  Things run more smoothly around the house and the channels for communication are more open and peaceful.  A lot of parents maintain reward charts to add an element of fun for their kids but maintaining them regularly can be a bit daunting.

Self-Reliance:  Routines help a child be more independent and assured of their own ability to do things. Parents can just supervise them now and then to make sure they’re doing ok. This greatly reduces tension and power struggles between parents and kids as they are in better harmony as tempers don’t shoot up and everything can be managed more calmly with greater amount of love, patience and trust. This helps parents and kids work towards shared goals for instance completing school projects and planning a family vacation in advance.

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Celebrating Navratri with Kids

Navratri is a vibrant nine day festival that’s enjoyed by all Indian communities around the world. Here are some social, cultural, safety aspects that can help parents make it a fun & safe celebration for kids and themselves.

The Drama: Navratri is a popular Indian Festival celebrated for nine days with traditional dances and folk music. With origins in Gujarat & Rajasthan’s folk culture, Navratri  is celebrated around the world – it’s fun and drama attract people to just let go and enjoy the bonhomie. Distinctive to it are the colourful, shiny clothes with traditional mirror handwork, bangles upto the shoulders and lots of jingling & blingy trinkets worn from head to toe.  All nine days involve prayers and offerings to the Goddesses of the Hindu Pantheon and family visits to shrines.

Social & Cultural impact on Kids: Kids especially are very enthusiastic to participate in the festivities. Their favourite part is the ‘dressing up’  – colourful swirling skirts, flared dhotis, blouses, ethnic jackets, stoles and jewellery for both boys and girls. To ensure your child enjoys every aspect of the dancing, parents can ensure they are appropriately dressed. Pinning the stole to the top so it doesn’t fall off or slip, using minimal make-up, wearing ornaments made from natural metals or just light thread-work, and wearing flat ballet shoes with colourful motifs is a beautiful & comfy way to go for little ones.

Safety Measures: Apart from the dressing, parents need to follow certain safety measures while having fun. Since Navratri garba & dandiya is often celebrated in open grounds & large auditoriums, it tends to get noisy and crowded, so stay close to your kid or enjoy your dancing alongside. Make them wear a name badge just to be sure or something distinctive like a colourful cap or scarf so you can spot them even from a distance. Ask the host or emcee to make an announcement and click your child’s pic in their costume so it’s easy to find them if they do get lost in the crowd. Its recommended to go in a group as there’s safety and more merriment in numbers and more people to supervise the kids through the night. Use organic/herbal colours for rangolis and decorations around the house and involve your kid as its very creatively fulfilling. Stay hydrated if participating every day and get ample rest as it’s not a bank holiday and schools and universities remain open. It’s a great time for family bonding and community spirit and teens tend to go astray so ensure they carry a cell phone and stay in touch constantly.

 

Additional Activities: Navratri is a celebration of colours and joy of life. Simba’s Art & Craft products can be used to add more drama to homes, events and dressing kids. Kids can design their own jewellery using Simba’s  10,000 Colors Beads Set & Simba Art & Fun Deluxe Beads Set. These DIY kits feature glittery & delicate beads, crystals, pearls in various heart, floral and whimsical shapes along with threads that can be used to string together bracelets, necklaces and anklets for dressing. Another fun product is Simba Art & Fun Mini Magic Designer which offers stencils with unique shapes that can be used to create rangolis at the home’s entrance. Presently, a lot of people are involved in eco-friendly activities during festivals and planting & gifting tree saplings is a popular choice for many families.

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Money Matters In Childhood

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Money matters and here’s how you can make your little one ‘penny-wise’ as they grow up.

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Why it’s Essential:  Money may not buy happiness but it is sure essential to happiness. It’s the exchange we pay for goods and services of all kinds and is a mean to an end and a tangible necessity. Considering its importance, it’s essential to imbibe a sense of practicality in kids towards money from an early age. It familiarizes a child with the outside world and keeps them rooted in reality. A fun way to introduce monetary transactions is through toys. Smoby Ice-cream Shop by Simba brings play-value and learning to your child’s life as he enjoys selling sweets and treats through role-play.

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Pocket Money: Getting pocket-money to spend on your favorite things is something we’ve all done as we were growing up.  A child learns to manage their finances as they start getting aware about their surroundings and by watching you and others around them deal with finances. Whether it’s buying new things from a shop, meeting friends or just going out to eat – it all helps them understand how to adapt to everyday situations.

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Parents Discretion: When it comes to finances, tell them age appropriate things that the can grasp and which allow them to be responsible and yet enjoy the pleasures money can buy. Simultaneously, make them understand why being frugal is also necessary.  For instance, they could start ‘saving for a rainy day’ or even maintain a common family piggy bank for extra things around the house, for repairs and maintenance and other family purchases. You can encourage them to take summer jobs and internships to give them a real sense of ‘earning money.’
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Earning & Learning: You can send kids to shop and ask them to account for it. You may also ask them to help you around the house for which they can earn an extra pocket money. Though it’s not about making them work, but about making them understand the value of money and that they “earned” it.

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Modern Values for Kids

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Values are often confused with moral conduct of behavior. Here are some modern values which can help children elevate their consciousness and grow into more aware beings.

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Being Religious v/s Being Spiritual:  Today, a lot of kids are not too keen about going shrines or religious discourses; however fascinating mythological tales may be, they are still esoteric in content and difficult for children to grasp.  Religions can be very dogmatic and binding i.e. demand the follower to live by certain rules and within certain boundaries of moral conduct.  Being spiritual gives kids more freedom of choice to find for themselves which ideals and concepts fit into their life and are aligned with their higher self. Being spiritual, atheist, agnostic is again a matter of choice and the idea is to allow a child the freedom of expression and not label them as moral/immoral, good/bad based on that. Being spiritual thus simply implies being in touch with their higher self which can be based on qualities of truth, authenticity, compassion, service to others and so on.

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Awareness & Apathy: Narcissism has crept into the modern lifestyle and largely so because of the societal pressure. Following a certain code of conduct to fit into a “good child” label is too tasking. Also, the new age education system has become so demanding that it often isolates a child from what’s happening in real world. At times, they get so bogged down by these pressures that they just ‘don’t care.’ This provokes apathetic responsiveness towards others by them. We need to instill values of compassion such that they can just be aware and reflect on it so that next time they will be ‘actively compassionate’ and not just bystanders to someone’s pain or discomfort.

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Acceptance: Acceptance is an attitude of complete non-judgement. Bullying and ragging are common in school/college life and a child can get socially anxious or awkward for being ridiculed or not fitting in with their peers. It’s essential to help a child develop an attitude of ‘acceptance’ i.e. accepting those different from you, befriend or just get to know people from various walks of life. This will help them in adapting to different cultures, conditions, classes and work environments in later life. Also if differences or dislike does creep in towards someone and they cannot be comfortable with, they could simply be and let the other be. They can avoid being judgmental or label others solely on their individual experience of incompatibility and should keep respectful boundaries to maintain harmony.
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Dignity for All: Every specie on the planet is essential for ‘balance’ and deserves to be treated with dignity. Make a child aware how we are all connected to plants, animals, birds, cosmic energies and how each of these are precious and beautiful in their own way.  Caring for the environment is a very rewarding experience as it makes a child compassionate. Going green in simple ways like recycling used paper, donating toys, minimizing plastic use, saving water, planting trees can keep them rooted and connected to the society at large.

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Freedom for Kids

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Freedom is everyone’s birth-right; and parents often are torn between how much freedom they need to give their kids owing to their safety concerns, fears and insecurities towards their children.

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Age-wise Appropriateness: The biggest conflict to decide how much freedom to give is because of the “conservative’ and “liberal” dynamic in parenting. At every stage and age the amount of freedom a child is given varies. For instance, a toddler needs constant adult supervision whether at home or outdoors; whereas, a young child between the ages of 6-12 years, can be allowed to be out with a familiar peer group. As children grow, you may have to have a dialogue with them explain how freedom comes with a responsibility. You can always keep a check on them through messages and phones to know their whereabouts and some deadlines won’t harm. Thus, your discretion at every stage and age of their physical/mental/emotional development would decide the appropriate amount of freedom they need and how much you can support and guide them.

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Establishing Boundaries:  Freedom does not imply shirking responsibilities and being a nomad. Children often feel ‘free’ to do anything they want because they are allowed to do whatever catches their fancy. As they grow up and begin to understand the world, they need to make their own choices and to make mindful decisions in any situation, you need to communicate the ‘why’s” and “why not’s”. For instance, making a child understand why they are being told to be indoors or to be home within a certain time. Inviting school/college/colony friends over and going to theirs at odd hours or wearing risqué clothing while they are out with friends are something they consider ‘being free-minded’ or cool. It’s not about what they are doing; it’s about the mentality with which they are doing certain things. Inculcate Independence and Self-Reliance and check on how responsible they can be in any given situation. Time-management, space management, completing their assignments within deadlines all reflects on how prepared they are to eventually be on their own.

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Keeping Them Rooted:  It helps to share your own experiences and how despite some rules being there, you enjoyed your freedom and youth. Today, many children, especially teens are in a hurry to experience everything as soon as they can and want instant gratification. The reasons could be peer pressure and the need to fit into a group, to look cool and be ‘in’ with the times. Kids are also highly impressionable because of the celebs they admire from a young age and dream of a life as glamorous as theirs. It’s essential to give your child a reality check. This does not mean binning their dreams or goals but to nurture those and helping them pursue those which are within their capacity and physical/mental/emotional makeup. They will eventually begin to see things the way they are rather than the way they ‘should’ be. Avoid cushioning them from hurt or telling them stories about good/bad people or it being a fair/unfair world. Freedom means allowing your child to make mistakes so they can ‘grow up’.

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Sibling Rivalry

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A sibling is a secret-keeper, friend within the family and also a competitor whom you have to out-smart to win over your parents. Sibling Rivalry is not irreparable, here’s how parents can help their kids resolve conflicts and retain harmony.

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Human Nature: Competitiveness is human nature as each person wants to achieve their goals and be the best that they can be to live the life of their dreams. This is also found in sibling relationships and these are often fueled by parents, relatives, friends, social circle and even the educational institution they are in.  Apart from academic and professional achievements, siblings often compete with each other to win over acceptance, love, and appreciation from those around them. Petty fights often begin
with which child has better things to wear, whose the parents’ pet v/s
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one gets glorified for being better in every sphere – to name a few instances.

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Order of Birth: Psychological case studies have identified as order of birth being an important trait to understand sibling rivalry. An elder child is most loved and remembered by everyone, is responsible, ambitious, often the one to follow rules and set a standard – often becoming a ‘role model’ for siblings. A middle child on the other hand is pressured and pursues something different or may be rebellious to get attention and be heard, these kids are usually found to be creative, have various interests and can dwindle between careers. The youngest child is often carefree and pampered by parents and siblings and is usually both emotional and stubborn. In contrast, twins are often found to be aligned and telepathically tuned into each other’s frequency and very supportive of each other through life.  Gender also influences the rivalry aspect but mostly, sibling relationships are found to be ‘loving yet argumentative’. Parents can prepare the older child before bringing the new-born into the family and an emotionally sensitive and supportive approach from early childhood years is found to be effective in resolving any problems that could arise in the future.

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Healthy Competition: To resolve conflicts stemming out of rivalry, parents can avoid favoritism and give each child equal amounts of time, attention and unconditional love.  Parents can often help each child excel at their chosen field or be the best they can be by just motivating strengths and help them overcome weaknesses. Talk in the open in a casual family meeting of sorts and let each child know what makes them so unique and special. Nurture their sense of individuality and not praise one child as a role model whose footsteps the other has to follow. Make them see that their sibling is not someone who’s better than them but just good at what they do. So just be focused on personal goals and channel their drive to what they want to become.. Make them feel loved and appreciated irrespective of how well they do at school/college or work as there’s more to life than that.

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Love-hate Relationship: Interestingly, siblings have the same genetic structure, yet abilities between siblings or an only child can differ from that of their parents. The nature & nurture aspect is highly influential in deciding which sibling does better. Hence, a loving approach by parents and those around them that recognizes each child’s unique potential is recommended to help siblings retain the love and camaraderie they share. Love and hate are sides of the same coin and fights between siblings are common – just like any other human relationship! If matters can’t be fixed, it’s better to be tolerant if you’re sharing spaces and parents often get involved to play peacemaker. It’s good to remember to keep things within a family, including past hurts as it eventually reflects on a family’s core foundation and value system if siblings become bitter enemies.

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Solve Child’s Homework Woes

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A school-going child’s biggest woe is the homework. Almost every child has some difficulty or dis-interest in completing their assignments and this often leads to tensed parents. Here are some simple ways in which you could help your child complete their homework w/out being frustrated or tired.

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Time Management:  A child’s school homework becomes priority on a daily basis and this keeps them away from play-time. Parents could manage their child’s daily routine in a way that they have enough time for their fun activities and games. Stepping outdoors for running, enjoying swings in the park and cycling also rejuvenate the child. Studying till late nights can also be stressful for kids as they start the day early and so do you. Keep aside maybe 2 hours around mid-day which would easily fit into your child’s usual schedule (and yours) and also ensure he gets an hour’s nap-time to feel rejuvenated.

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Reward and Praise: A child’s morale is influenced by appreciation from parents and so reward and praise your little one if they manage everything well. Give them a sense of accomplishment and treat them to sweet surprises; for instance, “You’ve been so great. Let’s go to your favorite park to play”. Instead of punishing your kid if they haven’t been able to cope up, and support and evaluate where they need help. Coping mechanisms like taking short breaks between study-time, completing homework with their favorite toy next to them, and you sitting beside them and finishing your tasks really help in extending support.

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Help and Don’t Obsess: Parents often take it upon themselves to do everything they can so their child can achieve academic success. Help your kid with projects w/out obsessing over every minute detail of their capacity to do things. Avoid completing their assignments as it reduces their levels of competence and could encourage dependency on you because of a low self-esteem. Motivate your child instead and set short achievable goals w/out being bossy or a perfectionist. Also drop comparisons and expectations – maybe your child is gifted in another field such as creative arts or sports, so nurture that instead.

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Know Thy Child: It’s natural to be emotional and sensitive when it comes to your little one, but it’s also essential to be realistic and objective to understand what your child’s capacity truly is. Parents often set very high standards for their kid to live up to and this comes from their personal needs to be over-achieving. This sort of parenting style often results in a timid kid who just shies away from experiences or a rebellious one who breaks all the norms just to prove something to you. Allow your child to finish things at their pace and maybe you could just create an environment that helps them focus better such as keeping distractions like TV or games away while they are completing assignments. Gradually, help them see homework as a fun learning activity rather than a daunting task which if incomplete could lead to failure.

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