Every individual is unique. Each one is blessed with some talent and has his/her strengths and weakness. As parents, it is essential to recognize this and appreciate the uniqueness of our children.
Some children are naturally outgoing. They are comfortable with changing surroundings and get along with people around them. They adapt quickly and do not hesitate to speak their minds. On the other hand, some children are quiet and introvert. They take their own time to adjust to the changing environment and find comfort with people around them. As parents, it is important to understand and respect the nature of your child. You can help them by providing the right guidance that enables them to overcome their inhibitions and facilitates their growth and development.
Here are 5 ways to help kids overcome their inhibitions
1. Do not label your child as shy
Adults tend to label an individual, based on the characteristics they perceive an individual to have. Be extremely vigilant about not exercising this with your child. Children are like clay; everything leaves a lasting impression on them. If you label your child as shy, they might start conforming to it. In a social set up, if you see your child coming across as quiet and not exchanging pleasantries, do not reprimand the child. Understand from them why they are having a calm day. Involve them in your conversations and introduce them to people around.
2. Do not overrule your child’s thoughts
Parents want the best for their child. However, sometimes, they rule out the thoughts of their children and impose their views on the child. If you do this repeatedly, your child might start doubting his/her beliefs. Appreciate your child’s thoughts and try seeing things from his/her perspective. If you have a different view, table your opinion but do not impose it.
3. Do not pressurize your child
Parents often get embarrassed if their child is not behaving in a way they expect them to around the people; especially when they notice other children of their age doing all appropriate things. Do not push your child to comply. Try to understand what is bothering them and why they refrain from engaging. Look for hidden signs in your child’s body language. Make them at ease and help them through.
4. Appreciate and Encourage
Nothing works better on children than words of appreciation and encouragement. Appreciate them in front of others. Recognize their efforts. It will help them be more confident in their actions. Positive reinforcement always helps.
5. Help your child in expressing his/her thoughts
Children sometimes struggle with expressing themselves. Talk to them and understand what bothers them. Involve your kids in exercises that will help them be more expressive. For example, have a set daily routine, where your child writes three good things that happened in the day.
Children are like saplings. They need the right environment to grow and flourish. Be empathetic with your kids and let them know, that they are appreciated. This will evolve them into a confident individual.