How to help your child in adjusting with a new pet


Pets are no less than family members. But, things are different when you have little ones along in the family. Making the two innocent, naive entities of the house adjust to each other could be a daunting task; so much so that at times, you may eventually have to take heart-breaking decisions like letting go of your beloved pet. But, this need not be the solution always. There is always a way to keep your loved ones together. All you need to do is follow some practices and be cautious.

Here are some of the tips that you can follow to maintain a fine balance:

1. Set the expectations right.


Talk to your child about the pet you are intending to bring; it’s age, behaviour, background, etc. Discussing this with your child helps them form their first impression and set basic expectations. This will also help your pet avoid feeling overwhelmed and keep your child from being hurt or disappointed by misinterpreting the behaviour of the pet.

2. Take it slow.


It is important that you give your pet some space; especially during its initial days in the family. Let the pet approach the child when it’s ready, instead of having it immediately approached by a child who is eager to pet, play with, or hold it. Your pet may otherwise interpret these friendly gestures as a threat and may run, scratch, or bite.

Help your child to observe and understand the body language of your pet. Let them know if any of their behaviours may appear disturbing or threat to the pet so that they refrain from doing so. Continue to keep a close watch on things until you are certain that your child and the pet are comfortable with each other.

3. Game away.


Teach your little ones some exciting games that they can play with the pet. You can buy some toys or learn some tricks. This will not only enhance their bond but also teach your child patience, teach your pet to obey instructions, and help both to do some exercise.

4. Share responsibilities.


Ask your child to help you in taking care of the pet. A child of nearly any age can help to feed or bathe a pet. A little older one can walk along when you take the pet for a stroll. The children who are older can be involved in training the pet or cleaning the litter. Letting your child participate in taking care of the pet can go a long way toward teaching responsibilities.


Therefore, when it comes to raising loved ones together, some discipline and lots of love will help create a happy space for all.


Importance of teaching time management to the child and how to do it


Time management is a pain to many, a virtue of a handful few. It is because this art is not taught during the learning age of kids in most of the households out of pampering and emotional way of bringing them up. A well-managed child is an outcome of continuous monitoring and inculcating values that as a parent we all must do. Here is why time management is crucial to be learnt by a growing child.

1. Makes child more organized


All successful leaders that we idolize know and respect the value of time and believe in an organized way of living. Their success is motivation for us doing so too.

Making a time table could be the first step in this direction. Following a pattern will make children habituated to timely eating, sleeping, playing, reading – all doing all other chores. Sticking to a set routine has a positive effect on a child’s mind and body. For example, the learning capabilities of a child, according to some researchers, is most enhanced between 10 am to 12 pm. This is the time when a well-organized child has slept fully, eaten breakfast properly and done with all ablutions making the internal atmosphere in the body toxin- free. Thus, the grasping power increases and the child is able to learn things faster.

2. Enhances productivity of the child


Setting time-table allows the child to do things as per the physical and mental requirements. Eating when the digestive enzymes are the most active, playing when the body needs refreshment and reading and writing when the mind is the most absorbing – this is the main purpose of setting the time table or teaching time management. Doing things when they affect the person most positively is key to making a child more productive.

3. Food does not take a backseat


Stuffing food hurriedly in mouth while running for the school bus is a common sight when you are ‘running out of time.’ Eating this way can just feed the body but with no positive effect; and at times may also result in choking. Instead, manage the eating time in a way that is synced with the digestion cycle of the body and processing food internally becomes possible and easy.

4. Ample time for sports and fun


When children are able to finish their activities on time, they can play or indulge in their favourite leisure activities with no worries. The nagging thought of pending homework or food lying on the table does not steal the fun from their daily routine. They are able to devote ample time to physical and recreational activities and become agile and fit in the process.


Wondering how to introduce the concept of time management to your child? Well, here are some very helpful and practical ways:

How to teach time management

1. Start with encouraging child to make a calendar


Go creative with the idea of making a calendar. Set targets and deadlines and encourage children to meet those.

2. Show the child how to make a time table


Make children understand the process of making and following time table by doing it for yourself. Children love to mimic you as they feel they are doing something important by adopting the elder’s way. Following this, they will eventually get habituated to the idea of sticking to a routine.

3. Reward the child for following the schedule


Just hanging the time table is not enough. Following it is crucial. And for a child, there is no motivation better than the anticipation of a reward. Appreciate them for finishing chores in a given time. Reward them for sticking to their routine by making them a favourite meal, taking them for a movie they like, or buying them something they love.

4. Discuss all the achievements made due to time management


Managing time well results in higher efficiency and productivity; thereby making your children achievers. They would not only excel in studies and competitions they take part in but would also attain mental peace by avoiding all the rush. Discuss the benefits of being well timed using appropriate examples and emphasis on it.

5. Set an example for the child by becoming self – organized


‘My mother or father does things this way’, it is a sentence most commonly uttered by the children. This implies that they are highly influenced by your actions. So, do things just like the way you want your child to do. Become their role models.


Time management can surely take your children to places. As they grow, they will be expected to manage multiple things day in and day out. Teaching them to adjust to the changing needs of their growing times, will certainly help!


3 important reasons why your child should get enough sleep


Human circadian rhythm tells us to sleep in the night and work in the day. It is because this rhythm works according to the intensity of light it is exposed to. So, like every human being, your child also needs to get enough sleep in the night. Many people are of opinion that babies look a bit bigger every morning. They are not totally false as sleep does promote growth in the children. So, what other positive things sleep brings in the life of your child? Let’s find out.

1. Helps improve mental ability and health


It is a common observation that children are the most cranky when they are woken up in the middle of their sleep. The disturbed sleep sets the mood off in children and they find it really hard to give their hundred per cent to any activity. They remain restless. On another hand, if they have slept well, they wake up high on energy and are able to learn things faster and better.

Another important function of sleep is to improve the brain and muscle coordination. It also fosters growth and prevents little ones from vascular diseases and weight-related problems.

2. Improves concentration


A tired child deprived of proper sleep shows symptoms similar to that of a child suffering from ADHD or concentration disorder. They are not able to sit at one place or will keep switching between activities as their brain is not trained to rest and focus. The University of Massachusetts organized a test activity to show how sleep improves concentration and memory. The kids who were sleeping for full 8 hours and those sleeping very less were given a set of words to memorize. The children having slept amply were able to repeat more words learned than the other group.

Hence to enjoy the learning process and concentrate on what’s being taught, a child needs to be well rested.


3. Rejuvenates body and mind for more activities


The natural outcome of ample sleep is well-rested and refreshed mind. Enough sleep relaxes muscles, improves immunity and energy levels in the body and thus, prepares the body better for all the challenges and activities while they are in growth years. Hence, with sufficient sweet sleep, children find it easy to adjust to the changing schedule.

So, prepare the bedtime schedule and power nap breaks for children which can help them adopt proper sleeping habits. What you achieve off this habit is a child happy, sociable and keen on learning.


5 advantages of being friendly with kids


When we are raised to the pedestal of being a parent, we tend to become role models; something which is healthy in some way. But, the problem arises when parents become too bossy in the process of inculcating values in the child. The result is an unhealthy environment at home and an unhappy child. So, how to raise a child to become happy, confident and sociable? The answer lies in – adopting a friendly attitude.

A friendly parent can be helpful in many ways to a child. The learning curve shoots higher when a parent is truly nurturing in nature. Mind it, nurturing does not mean cocooning the child from problems or giving everything on the platter. It means developing a child to be capable of handling life as a grown up. Let’s find out how your friendly behaviour can be advantageous for your child.

1. Develops sense of security in the child


Parents are the first and ultimate go-to for a child irrespective of the age. Your welcoming nature allows more communication from the child and he can share any problem more freely. Thus, the child knows that he is in safe hands when you display friendly behaviour.

2. Helps teach concept of caring and sharing


A little act of sharing the food or fruits from your own plate can teach your child the importance of caring. Also, when you care for your child when he/she needs your emotional or moral support, they tend to inculcate this act into their normal behaviour and does care about others too. Remember children learn what they see!

3. Makes child confident while interacting in public


When you behave with your child in a friendly way, it boosts their confidence. They then believe in self-worth. It makes them assured of their actions and that reflects in their behaviour in public.

4. Gives the child an enjoyable and safe company at home


When you approach the child with a friendly body language like a smile on face, patting on the back while talking, small hug on meeting, etc, they look forward to these moments every day. They enjoy your company and are eager to be with you with added enthusiasm. Nothing is better than a safe and joyful house for a child where he/she spends most of the time of the day.

5. Helps to improve the ability of questioning in a child 


A child can learn a lot by questioning. And, he will be encouraged to question when you are not irritated by the volley of the endless questions and patiently solve and satisfy their queries. A little patience in your demeanour can help them come forward and interact. This definitely helps the child learn about every new thing they come across.

When to draw the line?

But, yes, friendly does not mean you go overboard and neglect the parental responsibilities. Hence it is important to know where you have to draw the line. Leniency in moderation facilitates but in access will lead to situation where your child may stop taking you seriously when you are instructing him/her about something important. So, be polite but firm when your child does something that he/she isn’t supposed to.

So, make your bond with your little ones as enriching as possible by being there for them in a positive way. It does help in developing a keen, sharp, happy and confident child!


4 ways to positively discipline your child


Yes, every child does misbehave at some point in their childhood and you need to teach them discipline. The question that, however, arises is, how to do this in the best possible way that does not have any negative effects on them? Several studies have suggested that when you threaten or punish your child, it can have negative effects on them like resentment and fear. It’s best suggested to avoid such ways.

The good news is that there are ways that you can follow while teaching discipline to your child without any threats or punishments.

Here are 4 ways to discipline your child positively:

1. Understand the reason

mother talking with her son

When your child misbehaves, don’t shout at them. Instead, try to understand why he/she is behaving this way, ask yourself what might be the possible reasons for their behaviour. Once you identify the reason, look at what changes can you bring in yourself to satisfy your child’s needs. As Naomi Aldort, the author of Raising our Children, Raising Ourselves; says “Once we know the valid root of the behaviour, we can easily remove the cause or heal the emotions, and the child won’t be driven to behave that way anymore.

2. Stay Calm


It’s very hard to keep your calm in the heat of the moment, especially when your child is continuously throwing tantrums at you. We suggest keeping your calm in such a situation,  don’t do anything in front of your child that you would not want them to do. If you don’t want them to scream at the top of their voice, ensure you refrain from doing so as well.

3. Praise them for Good Behaviour


At times, children do misbehave because they want your attention. So, sometimes it’s good to ignore their bad behaviour and praise them for their good behaviour. This way, your little one would realize that they will only receive your attention if they behave well.

4. Don’t Bribe them


Bribing them is a strict no-no. It may be tempting to give them a chocolate in a shopping mall just to stop them screaming or promise them a cake if they behave well at a shop. But see this as a longer picture; children will co-operate only with you for something materialistic in return and will then always want a treat for completing even their basic responsibilities. Eventually, they will start pushing you and you will give in, for the sake of peace.

So, the next time your child misbehaves, don’t punish them. Instead, use the above methods and see the change in their behaviour yourself.


Five ways to help kids overcome their inhibitions


Every individual is unique. Each one is blessed with some talent and has his/her strengths and weakness. As parents, it is essential to recognize this and appreciate the uniqueness of our children.

Some children are naturally outgoing. They are comfortable with changing surroundings and get along with people around them. They adapt quickly and do not hesitate to speak their minds. On the other hand, some children are quiet and introvert. They take their own time to adjust to the changing environment and find comfort with people around them. As parents, it is important to understand and respect the nature of your child. You can help them by providing the right guidance that enables them to overcome their inhibitions and facilitates their growth and development.

Here are 5 ways to help kids overcome their inhibitions

1. Do not label your child as shy

sad son hugging his dad

Adults tend to label an individual, based on the characteristics they perceive an individual to have. Be extremely vigilant about not exercising this with your child. Children are like clay; everything leaves a lasting impression on them. If you label your child as shy, they might start conforming to it. In a social set up, if you see your child coming across as quiet and not exchanging pleasantries, do not reprimand the child. Understand from them why they are having a calm day. Involve them in your conversations and introduce them to people around.

2. Do not overrule your child’s thoughts


Parents want the best for their child. However, sometimes, they rule out the thoughts of their children and impose their views on the child. If you do this repeatedly, your child might start doubting his/her beliefs. Appreciate your child’s thoughts and try seeing things from his/her perspective. If you have a different view, table your opinion but do not impose it.

3. Do not pressurize your child


Parents often get embarrassed if their child is not behaving in a way they expect them to around the people; especially when they notice other children of their age doing all appropriate things. Do not push your child to comply. Try to understand what is bothering them and why they refrain from engaging. Look for hidden signs in your child’s body language. Make them at ease and help them through.

4. Appreciate and Encourage


Nothing works better on children than words of appreciation and encouragement. Appreciate them in front of others. Recognize their efforts. It will help them be more confident in their actions. Positive reinforcement always helps.

5. Help your child in expressing his/her thoughts


Children sometimes struggle with expressing themselves. Talk to them and understand what bothers them. Involve your kids in exercises that will help them be more expressive. For example, have a set daily routine, where your child writes three good things that happened in the day.

Children are like saplings. They need the right environment to grow and flourish. Be empathetic with your kids and let them know, that they are appreciated. This will evolve them into a confident individual.


5 ways to celebrate Diwali with kids


Diwali, one of the most favourite festival of us Indians, is celebrated with great joy and enthusiasm in the country. People look forward to this festival with great eagerness. Diwali derives its name from the Sanskrit word ‘Deepavali’. It is a combination of two words – ‘deepa’ meaning light and ‘avali’ meaning ‘series’. Diwali marks the end of darkness and the spread of light. Lamps and diyas mark the onset of this colourful festival.


Preparations for Diwali begin way in advance – houses are cleaned and decorated, savouries and sweets are prepared. During the festival, people visit each other to exchange greetings and warm wishes for new beginnings. Children enjoy lighting sparklers. As parents, you can encourage your kids to have an eco-friendly Diwali and stay away from bursting fireworks.


Festivals are a great way to enhance bonding within the family and creating an environment of joy and happiness. This Diwali, involve your kids in all the rituals and the festivities and make it a Diwali to remember for them.


Here are five ways to have a memorable Diwali with kids


1. Engage your kids in decorating the house


‘Decorating the house’ is one of the significant elements when it comes to Diwali celebrations. Once the house is cleaned spick and span, we plan on decorating it for the occasion. This Diwali, plan the decorations with your kids. Ideate with them about the kind of lights or props they would like. Involve them in making different lanterns and rangolis. Set aside a weekend for the entire family to decorate the home together.


2. Make diyas with your kids


Diyas represent Diwali. During Diwali, the houses are lit-up with numerous Diyas to reflect the festivity. You can buy the standard mud coloured diyas from the market and get your kids to decorate them. You can seek their help in choosing a wide variety of diyas. You can facilitate them with colours, beads, mirror, and more to make beautiful designs on diyas. When you will use their handmade diyas to decorate the house, not only the diya but even their faces would light up with happiness 🙂


3. Make Rangolis with them


Another essential element of Diwali is the Rangoli. Rangolis are the colourful designs made at the entrance of the house to welcome guests. You can teach your kids to make some simple and beautiful designs on their own or you can let them help you while you make one. Use organic colours available in the market that are not harsh or harmful. You can alternatively also teach them to make flower rangoli. Your children are sure to get excited about this activity.


4. Make sweets and savouries with them


Diwali is incomplete without the delicious Indian sweets and savouries. Traditionally, there is a custom to exchange homemade sweets and snacks with relatives and friends. If your child is fond of cooking or even eating, the days before Diwali would be a great time to indulge his/her secret MasterChef. You can involve them by seeking their help in preparing and distributing the festive food.

PS: Making their favourite delicacy will surely elate them.


5. Switch to Pollution Free Celebrations


Educate your children about the harmful effects of firecrackers on the environment and animals. Most of the older children shall understand and agree, however, to keep the tradition and fun going, you can let them have a sparkler or two; especially if your child is too young to understand the after effects of bursting crackers.


Involving your kids in the festivities will make them feel entrusted and boost their zeal. While they are engaged in all the fun with you tell them the story behind the festival and its significance. This will make the entire experience meaningful. Let this Diwali strengthen your family bond.