Choosing to communicate positively is effective for building a harmonious parent-child relationship. Here are some way in which you could develop your skills.
Playing in Co-operation & Harmony: We are social animals and a child can’t play or enjoy alone. To be able to live their growing up years to the fullest, kids usually form a group of friends. A group dynamic demands cooperation and respect for differences, and in times of dis-harmony you could start off by helping your kid see another child as a reflection or extension of self. Gradually, this process enhances their empathy and compassion for every person they meet.
Bullying v/s Bonding: Kids bully at times to assert individuality & power, gain attention, or be leaders in the given situation. This is natural as kids can be very passionate and stubborn at times to just be heard or seen. As a parent you can rectify this behavior by being with your little one and talk to him about different ways in which they can bond with others and reach out to them. If your kid starts throwing attitude or just starts acting like a boss of everybody in a team, make him understand that a leader is chosen by those around him. So maybe he needs to relax his aggression and put down his ego when it is the question of the larger good of all.
Total Transparency: It’s not healthy for kids to bottle up emotions and often when they feel unloved or unappreciated or ignored, they start being difficult. Be warm & understanding enough for your little one to open up and be transparent about the most hurtful/bitter things bothering them. Avoid the need to be judgmental and call feelings “right” or “wrong” as it’s just human nature and your child is still a tiny human in this big world. Allow your kid to openly speak up about everything as this aids the healing process naturally, and helps them evolve as a more authentic person.
Seek & Speak the Truth: Be a friend rather than a parent and choose verbal communication even in situations where your child is being mischievous and difficult to discipline. Allow your child freedom to ask for whatever they want without acting up, whining, complaining, throwing tantrums so that they trust you more and grow up to be well-adjusted and understanding. Create an ambiance where your kid’s openness can flourish and avoid creating too many rules, because childhood is best enjoyed in freedom and surrender to the moment.
Which are some of the ways you communicate with your child? Share your views and get featured on the blog.